I often hear it said that it is difficult to forgive.  In one sense that is true, especially if the hurt has been deep.  But I don’t think it is always as difficult as people make it out to be.  As soon as someone upsets me, as quickly as possible I start to ask God to bless them, and I keep it up for as long as it takes.  If the hurt is deep I may need to ask God to bless every time I think of the person, and to do that for some time.  This is what Jesus told us to do.

In Luke Chapter 6 He said ‘Love your enemies, pray for those who despitefully use you, bless those who curse you.’ St. Paul went even further in Romans chapter 12.  He told us to bless those who persecute us.  So, in obedience to this clear teaching, as soon as someone upsets me I start to ask God to bless them, and I keep it up for as long as it takes.  Very quickly I find that this starts to restore my peace.

In addition to that, when we ask God to bless He takes us at our word.  He does bless the person, and changes them, and makes them much nicer, and He also changes us.  Then reconciliation can take place.  As we ask God to bless the one who has hurt us that helps to keep the relationship between the Lord and ourselves open, and allows the power of God to flow.

I can guarantee, from my own personal experience, that what I am suggesting really works.  But if it is going to be effective we need to work at it.  May the Lord bless you as you pray prayers of blessing and forgiveness.